Welcome to... the Voice of Zeb and Zarna

Introduction:

As a young woman, I grew up in the era of rock and roll, poodle skirts, car clubs, and Capri pants. The hourglass figure was in. A size seven was really a size seven--not a five, and women usually looked like females.

In high school most girls took cooking and sewing, and “homemaking” was not a derogatory term. It was a time of transition from the agriculture based society to a technologically based economy, and my immediate family did not escape the blending of these two extremes. My father was a furniture manufacturer. My grandfather was a chicken farmer. So naturally I have vaccinated my share of the critters and boxed thousands of eggs. My personal interests focused on the fine and performing arts, and I retired over ten years ago after a long career as a dance teacher.

I remember when women, comfortable with their curvy bodies, were not afraid to accentuate their natural assets. Marilyn Monroe and Jane Russell were the female figure role models at healthy sizes 12 and 14. We never heard of anorexia or bulimia—though I’m sure it existed, but the flat-chested “Twiggy” figure was one to be avoided not encouraged.

My point is that females as a group were a whole lot more comfortable with who and what we were back then. Was everything perfect? No.

The professional woman when she could find work as a rule was paid far less than a man. And the functions a woman performed in the workplace were in most cases designed to further their bosses’ position—in the majority of cases, a man. Where there has been improvement in this area, in many cases this problem still persists.

The American Feminist Movement:

I have always considered myself a feminist—though I am sure by today’s radical feminist standards I would not measure up. I always loved being a female, and I believed as females we should have the same opportunities given to males. However, I shuddered during the burning of the bra period—I felt rather comfortable with its support—and when we traded our peace symbols for Annie Hal-look-a-like suits—I knew we as a gender were headed for big trouble.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I am grateful for those women who pushed the boundaries and created change. And so as not to appear ungrateful for their accomplishments, I will give credit where it is due. Today there are many more women in the professional and business world—my daughter being one of them—who are supporting themselves and their families in non-traditional female positions. In my day, a female’s education was mostly limited to nursing, secretarial, and teaching. And because of the dedicated feminists who paved the way in our American culture, today’s woman has more choices.

That said, today’s woman faces a completely different set of problems, some of them a direct result of the feminist movement. Since I lived through and experienced this period of change, I can look back on the emergence of the feminist movement with a mixture of emotions. If “they,” those early movers and shakers could only have seen where we were headed…

As a reaction to centuries of male dominance and abuse, women got the message! Or at least thought they did. In order to achieve respect, they had to become masculine—or at least think like a male, and so our society now shows the results of 30 years or more where half its population has denied their God given talents of innate intuitive knowledge, nurturing instincts, and emotional and creative passion, in exchange for intellectual pursuits in order to compete in a “Man’s World” and work-place.

Are women capable of doing so? Absolutely, but has it been in our best interests? Let’s take a closer look.

Hindsight is always clearer, so if we can backtrack to the 1950’s and the American mindset coming out of the WWII, it shouldn’t be too difficult to determine what women really wanted back then and compare that to what we have today at the beginning of the 21 century.

Women never wanted to be men. Women want to be respected for their contribution as women. There is a huge difference between acceptance and toleration. In the last 30 years, where women have made breakthroughs into positions that have traditionally been held by men, for the most part, they have been tolerated.

There are many facets to this societal gender imbalance, and in a short article we will only scratch the surface. My intent is to encourage some genuine objective thought on the subject based on an understanding of gender balance. (See the article -- Twin Soul Development: Maturity vs. Age.)

How Does Neglect of Gender Equality Affect Society?

We are told by Zarna that actions that fall short of masculine/feminine balance can lead to the creation of evil. It doesn’t take a degree in economics or sociology to look at the disadvantaged countries around the world today where starvation, constant political upheaval, and over population run rampant and see a common denominator.

Today, in countries where men, encouraged by patriarchal religious domination, consider women possessions and where woman have no political voice, we see prime examples of male/female imbalance and the resulting evil. The illness of such imbalance fosters a devastating deterioration of the feminine aspect in all arenas—especially where men, completely separated from women, never develop the balance of their own feminine aspects, and are often taught to despise the opposite sex. Such denial of the feminine creates a breeding ground for fanaticism and terrorism.

If mankind was a bird, its wings representing male and female, and if we tied one wing, the bird would not fly. Societies that restrict the creative voice of fifty percent of its human resources--in this case the feminine aspect, the most powerful of creative resources--the society is doomed to imbalance and failure. (More on this in the article Divine Sexuality)

The Continuing Struggle in America :

Today in America women are faced with the result of a short sighted race to the finish line. As my two girls—who are now grown women—will tell you, I certainly do not subscribe to the “little woman belongs in the home,” philosophy. However, the basic nature of the female is to nurture. She is highly intuitive, and it is through her creative passion that all things come into being. We are talking generalities here. I realize not every woman wants to have a family, and that’s perfectly her rightful choice of which I strongly support. My girls certainly didn’t feel their maternal instincts until they were in their late 20’s. We are long past the time on our planet, “to be fruitful and multiply.” Motherhood is a choice. Your feminine gender is a God created gift.

The recent concern of so many 30-something women who watch their biological clock tick toward infertility should tell us something. What women think they want during their race toward the golden ring of career and economic security begins to tarnish fast when their nurturing instinct kicks in—and in most cases it does.

Women have adjusted to the masculine mindset and can make a living in the workplace, but what has the price been to their soul? This is in no way a condemnation of the many women who are forced by the prevailing economy to assist or take full responsibility for the support of their families. But you do so in a culture that doesn’t make it easy for the working mother.

What the women’s movement neglected to consider when they were burning their bras was that our country was not prepared—then or now—to support the needs of a working mother. Thirty years later, not much has improved. For the working single mom, day care is a huge expense and latch key children have become the rule rather than the exception. Believe me; I speak from experience, if kids are going to get into trouble, after school is the time. While day care costs and medical expenses are understandably high, the burden for a single income of a non-professional salary is way out of proportion.

And of course we have a rampant materialism that charges onward like a run away train, espousing its message of a throw away disposable mindset, using credit cards to imprisoned our young people under the yoke of unrealistic debt. Buy now, Pay Big-time later. But I digress. We won’t solve all the ills or even spell them out in this one article.

The women’s movement convinced many women in our country that going to work gave one self worth. Well it did, because the alternative was the unappreciated Beaver-Cleavers mom and wife who cooked and sewed and had cookies on the table when the kids came home. I bet most American men today would say: “Hey, that’s not such a bad deal!” It’s not, but you’re father and grandfathers messed it up by not showing respect and value for that evolving dying breed—“the little woman at home.”

All that changed because men continued to hold unreasonable control and the stay-at-home mom felt devalued. Women became disenchanted with masculine and economic imbalance. In our American households, it was not uncommon for a woman of that period to have to ask permission to spend money instead of making cooperative joint decisions about finances. When the feminists’ message touted independence and economic freedom, many women grabbed placards and joined the parade. I remember cheering them on!

But an unfortunate thing happened that I also watched with growing sadness. The feminist movement began to reinforce the idea that the woman in the home was less valued than the professional woman, and a serious erosion of feminine confidence followed. The words, “I’m just a housewife and stay-at-home mom,” still rings in my ears. I have been married for over 39 years to the same man, raised four children, shared co-ownership in our business, and ran my own dance studio, but I have never been a housewife, and my husband wouldn’t dare call me such. I am his wife, not the houses’.

We were fortunate in our relationship to have fostered a true understanding of my equality. Equality does not mean sameness. In our desire to work together gender specific roles were used when they were of value and a new criterion was developed when necessary for our personal needs. Neither of us feels unequal. We work together and honor each other for our strengths. This is one of the keys to gender balance.

The Growing Backlash:

So here we are with a backlash. Women who can now compete in the workplace but in many cases find they really want a family down the road, and a society that is ill prepared to help the single working mom.

Let’s see if we can learn from Zarna’s words why the pendulum has swung so far from one dominate gender extreme to the other.

44:14. You [females] have had the age of the Life Givers--the Age of Goddesses that lorded over men and oppressed them until they rebelled. You have lived in the Age of the Life Destroyers who have tried their best to destroy all life on your planet for the past two thousand years. They have made the Sacred Feminine into the Whore. They have made a Loving God into a Jealous and Vengeful God who is Selfish and full of Condemnation. They have set nation against nation and brother against brother.

44:15. Their time… is at an end. It is the time of a New Emergence of the Goddess--Twin Soul God/Goddess--partners expressing their personal sovereignty together as One Duality. Your natures are to be merged--the masculine destroyer to become the life sustainer….. The Goddess Ruler will once again become the Life Giver--neither in dominance, nor in submission. You both, male and female have paid your penalty and grown. It is a time of merging, for mutual bliss… a merging of purpose and goals, of the strong and weak, of the wealthy and poor, of what you call "good" and "bad." All these are dualities of the same coin. As a society you are just beginning to see your own face in the reflection of others. (End of Selection.)

I think the underlined portion of the paragraphs above is important because is shows a cyclical pattern. The Goddess Rulers paid the penalty for their abuse. Notice she states that feminine dominance of the Goddess age was just as oppressive to the male as has been the male’s recent dominance over the female. Most feminist of today don’t like to remember or are ignorant of the plight of the male in earlier female dominated cultures.

I’m sure you have heard that we create our own reality. Well, societies create their own reality also. In this case we can see the law of cause and effect. As my daughter-in-law likes to say, “Don’t poop on the hula hoop because it is coming back around!” Well that’s what is happening.

As I see it, the swing from one extreme to the other was necessary for our maturation. On the progressive evolution of our collective soul, these experiences were inevitable. Oh, I will admit it hasn’t been any picnic for us women in the last 3000 years, but our gender has been forced to develop our intellectual side. So in a way, the last 100 years has seen the woman rise and begin to take her place as a more balanced Goddess Ruler. Though the feminist movement has often veered far from its ideal, it has forced intellectual education of women in our country and most developed counties in the world so that women could take their place in equal partnership along side their male counterpart.

In Conclusion:

The Aquarian Age will see the age of balanced genders, where more people will begin to understand that we, as the human race, will only blossom when we work in cooperation and union using the blend of our innate, God given primary gender aspect talents.

I have read others who look at, and interpret, some of these gender concepts from different ancient scriptures. But what seems to creep into their construct is that they see the genders as either all feminine or all masculine. It is true that in extremely patriarchal dominated societies, these definite lines are encouraged if not demanded by their laws.

What they fail to grasp is that we are not created that way. We are both genders, and to function to our fullest potential in physicality, balancing those genders means that we must develop that seed of our counterpart. Contrary to what many believe, men are not from Mars and women are not from Venus. We are all created by the God/Goddess—androgynous beings with masculine feminine aspects. We are all created in their likeness and with the potential for empowerment through balancing our nature. True understanding of the sexes will not come from focusing on our differences but by honoring them, and developing that balance within ourselves.

Women, forced by cultural needs, have made great strides toward that goal and in some cases have overstepped into imbalance when pushed by their radical peers. But overall, we women are getting there. We need not forget who and what we are. Women should be encouraged to pursue any field they desire, but do so as women—using all our natural and acquired skills.

We are Goddesses. We are mothers and worriers, builders and lovers. We will lead our opposite gender to the understanding of his feminine seed within. And when the male begins to use his heart in balance with his intellect, and the female uses her intellect to balance her emotions, as equal gender partners we will see governments that function and business that flourish, families that teach honor of the sexes to their children. We will create, ‘Peace on Earth.”

We bid you peace.

Melvyn Caryl 6/20/04

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