Right now, your life is exactly where it
should be. Living and loving, and how wonderful that you
have a soul mate to share it with. At your age your needs are to
be centered on you and your mate and your growing family. If you
build your relationship and family filled with love you can
create a family structure that is a safe place--a divine refuge
where spiritual growth for all concerned can flourish.
It is fun, but it is not easy for a women
to move into the fullness of her maturity--continue to develop
her masculine aspect--to be self-reliant and exercise her
self-sovereignty while at the same time taking care of children
and family--and often in our US economy holding down a job.
For the masculine mate, having to provide for a family and still
have time to work on spiritual goals--balancing the feminine
aspect within himself--is also a challenge. It is difficult to
keep all those balls in the air, and to do so, you and your
husband’s focus should be on your personal goals and your
So it is from the view point of a 63-year-old woman, having
lived a full life with husband, children, job and family, and now
being brought together with my twin that I can better see the over
all “picture” with the advantage of wisdom from life practice.
Twin Souls are brought together in their last life and in their
later years to serve others. This is
a time when their families are grown and their responsibilities to
them have diminished. The Twin Soul union is not about themselves
as a couple.
This is not to say that there is not love
between them—there is, and it is passionate and wonderful. It
can be as romantic and beautiful as all the things you have read
about the “perfect love,” however, this is not the purpose. The union of a Twin Soul in
this time is not for having family and learning
and growing together through that experience. By the time of a Twin Soul's
joining their maturity and masculine/feminine
aspect balance has already been achieved.
The fusion with your Twin Soul other half on this side is a
power vested to those who are ready to use their unconditional
love and undistracted
energies to serve others in whatever capacity they have been
But the Twin Soul is not the only twin reunion. On this website we
have tried to make known the importance of the Near
Twin relationship. It is a mistake to believe that the
Near Twin is less than a Twin Soul relationship. It is
a Twin Soul union.
I suggest all who read this might also do a search on Near Twins
with the search engine on this site using the "exact
match" function that will give you more information on this
subject than you will find in this article.
Let me give you an instance where a Near Twin reunion would be
more likely and just as rewarding.
What about a spiritually mature person
who’s Twin Soul is on the Otherside? Can you see where a
wonderful relationship with another soul sibling (Near Twin) would
be the perfect companion – possibly the love of that lifetime?
Of course! The Near Twin, Soul Mate relationship has all the same
synchronicities as is expected with a Twin Soul with often the
added connection of past live intimacy--which is why it is so
often mistaken for a Twin Soul reunion.
Why is this when we have been told by others that the Twin Soul
is the other half of our being? This is true. Our Twin Soul
is our exact matching vibration or Soul Signature. On the
other hand, very close Near Twins have often had a rich past life
histories—having been past life lovers or husbands or wives. They
will often have glimpses of those lives and remember the passion
they shared and will share again.
These kinds of past life
relationships--lovers, wives and husbands are not engaged in by Twin
In fact, in the early stages of our development the Twin Soul
halves actually repel each other. (See -- Twin
Soul Development: Age vs. Maturity)
Twin Souls often plan to be close to one another —meaning that
they incarnate at the same time, and sometimes will be a sibling
or other close family member, possibly friends. But it is usually
a Near Twin or a Companion Mate who will play these other
intimate roles. The Near Twin relationship is not usually a relationship
that focuses on spiritual growth through the struggles of the
relationship, for it has all the markings of the “perfect
love.” The spiritual growth in these lives comes to them
in other ways.
I am not saying that you and your husband are not Twin Souls—it is
possible, but it is my guess that if he is, your spiritual mission
will be toward your later years together. It is also possible that
he is your Near Twin. Does it really matter?
Love with all your heart and if you are
happy, than that is all that counts, isn’t it?
You wanted to know why... let's see what Zeb
and Zarna in recent messages had to say on the subject of Twin
Souls. Here is a section from Message # 93 from Zeb...
1.Zeb:> It is good to be with you again in this way. I am
asked to explain or remind you of a few things about the coming
together of our Spiritual Family. You mentioned that what strikes
you the most is that these twins who approach you are mostly in
their latter years—Earth age of 43 to 53.
There is some significance to this.
As you already know, true Twin Souls are brought together (if they
are to be brought together at all in physicality) in the later
years of their life. This does not begin at your age (60s) Dear
One. But would include those who are as young as in their early
40’s, even fewer in their 30’s, and hardly any within their
[Caryl note! As you see it is possible.]
2. While this relates to one’s Soul
Development it also directly corresponds to ones physical age in
that with each decade of physical age your maturity and life focus
changes. In this, you, Melvyn Caryl, are in your prime. Not
3. Now among those who have come to you are many who only think
they have found their Twin Soul (you already know this) for at
this age (Middle age) many relationships have withered and died
but responsibilities hold the two married spouses
together—responsibilities and reluctance to change path after 20
plus years. There are those who can’t grasp the Twin Soul
relationship as anything other then a ‘perfect marriage’
relationship. They are so confounded by the lure of this
“perfect relationship” that they completely miss the whole
purpose of the Twin Soul relationship.
4. This is to be expected. … all are not so intuitive as
to know the greater scheme of things.
5. There are
those who truly have
met their Twin Soul yet have charted a life path [in their early
years] of difficulty with an established relationship and must
discover a way to work through or around it.
It is one of the many tests they have set for themselves.
[Caryl’s Question: How Twin Souls who find each other should
deal with existing spouses? Will you spell out some practical
solutions--how to approach this? I know each situation is
different, but there must be some generalities that perhaps we
have not thought of yet that will make this easier?]
7. Practical Solutions! Little one how you “test” the
First of all,
it is an individual challenge how each deals with their earthly
marriage mates. Some… have earthly joinings that are on their
“last legs,” and the Twin Soul or Near Twin meeting is an
issue that provides the impetus that pushes them over—this
is as it was intended by them, charted before. It is neither
“good” or “bad.”
It just is.
8. What is good is the attempt of the
spiritually mature one to deal with this in a responsible manner.
Marriages and Spiritual
Marriages exist in two separate realms for two
different purposes and for different degrees of longevity. They do
not have to conflict unless the temporal
tried to overrule the immortal. When both
achieve balance and acceptance you have created the “Outer
like the Inner” and "that
which is Below, like that which is Above."
11. Do not concern yourself over whether the one they
identify is their true Twin or not. There are people
who want the reality of love and the Twin Soul concept. They want
it so much that they have created and believe their own harmless
From Message 117- Part 2
117: 22. …Without Our help, none of
you have the ability to tell who is and who isn't a Near Twin or
who is their Twin Soul. Love can cloud the eyes and heart to where
"that special one" who shares so
many synchronicities just has to be one's Twin Soul. It isn't
always so. One who isn't even from your own Soul Group can make
you feel this way. That is one of the
purposes of our
--to clear up the misunderstandings about “The
Twin Soul Myth.”
are many places in the ZZ Messages where we find similar
instruction about the role of the reunited Twin Soul. There are
many variables, and it is difficult to isolate the exact soul
relationship of a couple. It is not my place to say one way or
another or to determine for anyone if they are or are not with
their Twin Soul, but rather to give to you what we are told by Zeb
and Zarna so you can decide for yourself.
I can share with you my
personal ideas about Twin Soul union in the future. Now, in
this transitional time on our planet, it is reasonable that Twin
Soul union would be dedicated to spiritual service. The circumstances
in the past were different, as I am sure they will be in the
future. I have no doubt that one day younger
spiritually mature Twin Souls will unite in their youth and aid
our society by bringing forth children in an enlightened environment.
This on my part is just a guess. Zeb and Zarna have not
given information on this.
In any case all relationships
have their purpose and it is up to us to make the best of the opportunities
presented in each one.
We wish you all the best with
your new marriage and your new baby and tons of wonderful
experiences to come.
With love and
Caryl, of Melvyn Caryl © 1-18-06
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